here is my dateme/relationship building doc. thanks for inspiration, here:) this has been a fun experiment — plus writing things here helps me gain clarity in what i want and why. lmk if you are curious about this experiment and wanna hear more!


based in SF, 25yo, bi, wants kids, open to poly while in search for a (maybe hopefully who knows) life partner:)

Infinite playfulness & aliveness & being your fullest self

I resonate with the Infinite Finite Games book (summary by Farnam Street). I love trying out different things and observing how I feel. I am very self-aware and think a lot. Trying to cultivate thinking for myself as my default state of being.

Curiosity & intelligence

I have a lot of energy and am deeply curious. You will likely sense it from our first IRL convo. For now, check out this link. (Btw I love curius). Also, wanna try lots of things in my life:

Spirituality & interest in the eastern religions/philosophy

I have been wondering about spiritual-like topics for 3 years now. Some questions are: what is reality? who am I and what is self?

The real hunger for spiritual understanding accelerated when russia invaded my home. Check then news on Ukraine. To help myself cope, I have been reading a lot. I think I found some sense equanimity and peace now that is becoming more and more present. I meditate, do yoga, breath work, cold plunges on a regular basis.


At first a coping mechanism, movement now grew into me. I need it and do it often. Not necessarily restricting moving to gym, a square of grass or yoga mat is great too. My goals are handstands, crow pose, pull-ups and flexibility/mobility.

Seems like I vibe with calisthenics but excited to also try dancing. I regret not doing sports in my adolescence as now there is so much work to be done to get to what I want (e.g. I want handstands and it is hard on both physical and inner-work levels). Persistence and consistency are my best friends here. On a weekly basis I do some movement 5-6x a week (this includes yoga which many people consider an exercise).

Kindness and love

Kind by nature from my mom and appreciate kindness in others.

Love — influenced by hippies in sf. But hey love is cool and the world would be a better place if we embraced it.

Self-awareness gamey game